SIGNS OF INSECURE FRIENDS

“Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are.”

One of the famous quotes about friends. But there are times wherein friends around you really aren’t friends at all. There are times that they feel insecure to you without you doing anything at all – they feel you are a competition.

Here are some signs saying that you may have insecure friends:

I AM IMPORTANT – Insecure friends tend to be arrogant because they feel they have the need to exert their importance to over shadow you. Most of the time they would steal the spot light from you specially when you’re the one talking – they would almost always say that they have the same experience but much rich. They wouldn’t have let the chance to pass that their experience is less than yours. This is tricky because they are also good manipulators, you wouldn’t notice that the spotlight is already with them. Insecure people would always have the need to showcase their compliments to over shadow yours. 

FALSE ADMIRATION – They are tricky people. They wear different kinds of masks that depends on who they’re with. Insecure friends tend to give false compliments and would roll their eyes as soon as you turn your back. For instance, you have a new gadget and you’d like to show it to your friends, not to brag about it but just to show it to them. Insecure friends would give you compliments on how great your gadget is, but the minute you turn your back after their “awww” and “ohhhh” they roll their eyes. 

PEOPLE PLEASER – Because they feel the are less of a person, they would want to compensate it by pleasing people. They would almost always say “yes” to anything so as to give value to them. They fear that if they are not needed, people would not like them anymore. They almost do stuff for people to please them not genuinely help them. They would do even the impossible if you ask them.

BULLYING – People who feel inferior to you would almost always have the sharpest tongue specially if you’re involved. They took it upon themselves to make it sure that they would always put you down in anyway they can. Bullying has many forms. The most common if which is through harsh jokes. Jokes that would make fun of ones weight, outfit, hair style, physical appearance and even disability. Most of the time, they have perfect timing on throwing punchlines that is why you’d hardly notice the pun. Insecure people would always make you feel insecure about your self, even through jokes.

Insecure people aren’t generally bad, they have issues in themselves that need your help. If you’re really a good friend, you’d take it upon yourself to help them. The signs I gave are signs that they are asking for help. They have given themselves labels and they put themselves down. Its like seeing them physically, but when they face the mirror, they see words written in their face saying they are less. Be the better person and help them.